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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.. I wish co-parenting well was possible, but he is a raging co-dependent/ Borderline.  I should have stated that I am trying to find a schedule that puts the kids first and works well for their lives/ school/ stress/ activities/ friends.  I've put forth 3-4 iterations and while none are perfect, some are better than others, and he's red-lined all of them.  He is focused on staying at or above 140 nts per year, so obviously manipulating child support is his primary goal.

I don't think there's a schedule out there I haven't mulled over trying to find one that meets everyone's needs.  It's frustrating to me that I'm willing to make concessions that benefit the kids and reduce my time with them, and he only focuses on how many overnights he gets and what that costs him each month.  No matter that he works 70 hrs /wk and I WAHM, better they sit in his empty house with a sitter than stay with me until he can come get them himself.

UGH... I know it's not ever easy, but this seems incredibly hard to strike a balance that doesn't sell out the kids.[/quote]

"better they sit in his empty house...."

Ask for "right of first refusal" in the custody agreement.  He gets 140 nights, but if either of you can't be with the kids on "your night"  you have to give the other parent the first opportunity to stay with them.  This way he gets his number of nights, but if he cares as little as he does, he will start finding excuses to let you have them instead of using sitter.

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