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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is your child not fast or not aggressive?  In soccer it is all about being first to the ball. The speediest kid at age 8 isn't always the first to the ball, it is often the most aggressive player who will challenge. Try to find a soccer skills class or try to find a rec league where he will be on the older side of the kids, so a grouping go 6 to 8 year olds, not 8 to 10 year olds.[/quote]

great insight! no he's not aggressive. [b]perhaps i can just tell him if you want to score you have to be aggressive... but then again if he doesn't get to play forward it's tough to get the ball near the goal..[/b].[/quote]

What?  Huh?  Did you or DH play any sports growing up?

#1- speed can be improved--but there are genetic limits.   Some people are just slow.
#2- you cannot teach sports-style aggression or innate competitiveness.
#3- some families have no athletic ability.

That does not mean your kid can't play sports for 'fun'.  What I don't like is the idea that you seem to want to buy your kid genetic gifts?  Why not just realize soccer may not be his sport--but let him continue to play if he is having fun.  If he is not having fun as it gets more competitive--move on.  It is about 'him'- not 'you'.  I have a nephew that loved, loved, loved football and was dying to be a quarterback. He is 6'3"--looks like one--but the kid is just not super-competitive or gifted in that area.  he still played and then when he got no playing time in HS- he hung it up and moved onto CrossCountry.  he ended up getting a track scholarship this year to college!

I say this not to be snarky. [b]We have two professional players in my family and I played Division I so the new trend with soccer in this area is very disturbing to me. [/b] They even start 'travel' soccer way to early.  Kids aren't mature enough or physically and emotionally ready in 3rd grade.[/quote]

what's wrong with you? helping my kid to get what he wants somehow makes me a bad parent? you're so all athletic we should just do nothing but bow to your supremacy. obnoxious parents like you is the trend that's disturbing to me. disgusting. [/quote]

This poster pipes up all the time to say how much she doesn't like where youth soccer is today - doesn't like professional coaches, travel is meaningless, blah blah blah.  Yet way more kids are involved in soccer now than they were in her day.  It is actually getting some traction as a sport at the professional level although the women are still having trouble.  Without a more compettiive youth soccer movement we wouldn't have made this kind of progress.

OP, by all means get a coach to work on skills.  If you are in Virginia you may be able to find a HS student (since their competitive season is the spring so they will just be doing travel now) to help.  It would be hard to get a MD or private school or college kid who had time during the peak of soccer season.  My DC has done some one on one coaching with little kids, as have some of his friends (and they do get paid $20/hour).  The kids seemed to enjoy it.

I do think you need to talk to your son about the team concept.  The majority of goals are scored by only a few players on a team.  That is their job.  Other players have different jobs.  My DC is one of the best players on his team and is a defender.  Rarely scores.
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