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[quote=Anonymous]"Thing is, she knows how to "play well" in public. She knows how to pass the competency test so to speak. So to the outsiders who don't interact with her much she is this elderly white lady with some physical ailments. She will you her age, her DOB, where she was born, where she lives. She is lucid. But it's the negativity, it's the hate that she hides so well fromw well-wishers."

04:56 again here. OP, you are confusing personality disorders with competency. Competency isn't just about a person's mental capacity, but also about their PHYSICAL ability to care for themselves.

As I said before, she will probably get to the point where she can no longer physically care for herself. That means getting groceries, bathing, toileting, walking, maintaining household cleanliness, arranging for/getting to health care appointments, etc.

That is undoubtedly when neighbors will probably weigh in.

We once had an elderly neighbor who was single with no children but was pretty self-sufficient and then began a downward spiral.

We started noticing she wasn't outdoors as much, she wasn't caring for her pet/walking it, she had obvious physical problems with her legs, and she began to ask us all for more and more help with daily living requirements.

At that point, we contacted senior services for the County and got them involved. They sent over elder care experts who began regular check-ins, etc. and continued to monitor her until she eventually wound up hospitalized and then passed away in a nursing home.

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