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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]No judge will order him to give his 22-year-old daughter money to cover her cell phone or car expenses.[/quote]

Is there a settlement or divorce agreement in the first marriage? Or did he live in a state--about half--in which a divorced parent can be required to pay some part of college expenses? Is OP sure he met his full child support obligations to his older child in the past?

A judge is unlikely to order him to pay his D's phone or car expenses, but might find he is responsible for more of her tuition than he has paid. And, if there is a divorce agreement of judgment specifying that he'll pay certain expenses until she finishes college, it will be enforced.

IOW, without more info, OP shouldn't assume he has no longer has any obligations to his older child.

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Good point.  What does his divorce agreement say?  Is he required to pay part of tuition and "car payments, insurance, housing ...")?  Also, what are your actual financials OP?  Specifically, what are you giving up for him to support his adult child for two more years?   Does he have any separate property from before the marriage that he can draw against to cover the expenses for his adult child?  Can you reduce your family's expenses so he can afford his "fair share." Maybe it means downsizing.  If he leases a car, could he get out of it and drive an older one?  Could you cut cable?  Cut back on travel?   I think it's important to develop a budget and enforce it. If the money he is giving his 22-year-old is beyond what the divorce decree requires, consider the possibility that this may continue for a long time.  Some people are more comfortable than others with supporting adult children in their twenties and beyond, so it's not necessarily an issue that will go away in two years.  Also, why does the 22-year-old need two more years of support?  Many families give their children 4 years to complete a degree and then cut off funding.  [/quote]

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