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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It takes courage to correct the person and give them a chance to improve. It’s a sign of weakness and mean spiritedness to tell others out of earshot of the offender. Your actions will likely be perceived by others as the worse of the two offenses.[/quote]

+ 1. I'd call it gossip, but whatever you call it, doing it is cowardly, to me, anyway.[/quote]

In general I try to correct the behavior, but I’ve noticed that these people get very aggressive about it. They usually do not take the polite hint well, but go into confrontation.

These people are usually the elephant in the room, everyone knows they’re there and they stink, but everyone pretends that there is nothing wrong and they’re in a field of roses.

Usually because of some volatile reaction that the ‘aggressor’ has had. But they are closely related to you, not necessarily by blood, that there is a common incentive to keep the monster appeased. Then, for the sake of getting along, you’re expected to pretend like it’s all fine, but you do t want to anymore. Because, why?

One particular person I have in mind, always makes a scene when you call them out on it, even ever so slightly. The family consensus is to ignore and let go. What if you disagree, but if you don’t let go, you’re basically responsible for ruining the event? Or in exchange, let go in the moment, but make sure to list the issues?

I’m not sure what’s right.

I’d personally prefer to just confront the person, and I have in the past, but then I’d have to deal with all the pouty faces of the enablers and take responsibility for the ruined mood.

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