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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Can you elaborate more on what you think is going on with these friendships? - OP[/quote] Answer from poster 12:41. I have gotten better, more confident about (what I consider boundaries) emotional boundaries. Meaning, it has become more important to me, in the last decades, that others make an almost equal effort. Slightly less effort is ok, but a lot less effort is not ok. I try to adjust my expectations/effort to what works mutually. To better match their effort. Otherwise, I'm resentful. Nothing kills a relationship more than resentment - I'd rather step back and keep stepping back until the relationship is balanced and works, on some level.[/quote] how do you know the people in OP's example are making less effort? I'm not advising anyone to hang on to toxic relationships, but the trend of "let go of everything that no longer serves you" leaves zero room for grace and a lot of room for self-righteousness. [/quote]
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