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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP back with a thank you.

So much to consider. Our DC really want to travel and be with their cousins (all young adults-college age) and I would absolutely go without DH.

I don’t add this but my last parent died a few months ago. So this is our first Thanksgiving w/o parents. My siblings and I have vowed to see each other as often as we can since our former childhood home, sold last year, was always a natural gathering place. So many emotions. [/quote]

This changes things IMO. I was originally in agreement with the poster who said to make a special visit this year because they are reeling from the diagnosis, and then go back to normal afterwards (i.e. they don't get to use this excuse indefinitely). But grieving for your own parents and being with family to heal is just as important as "grandma's last holiday" IMO.

But my first question was where do you celebrate Christmas (or whatever your December holiday may be)? We always try to split holidays between families. So if you already have plans for one family for Thanksgiving, and the other family gets Christmas, I would honestly keep that and maybe you offer the ILs another holiday like New Years or something. Plan a nice dinner and music or whatever floats their boat. Or if your DH has siblings, see if you can arrange for them to all visit a week before or after Thanksgiving to be together.

Frankly, I hate holidays. I hate how we are expected to be everywhere with everyone on this one single day, and if you visit the following week it is somehow not as good and now you get a guilt trip. [/quote]

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