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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes. But almost every kid bullies at some point—not all are persistent regular bullies, but every kid in elementary school does something callous and cruel, says something hurtful, or gets caught up in the moment and finds themselves laughing and playing along as someone else gets picked on — it's very normal, and a good kid will realize they did something wrong, and will feel bad and try not to ever do it again. True bullies keep it up.

So much bullying can be so subtle, something that only the victim knows how terribly painful it is...

So I'd say, in a lot of cases, no, the parents don't know... but if it's the kind of thing that keeps up, any decent parent will catch on. Some are oblivious, some don't know what to do, some are fine with it, etc.[/quote]

This! I hate his idea that there are "bullies" and then there's everyone else. [b]Almost all kids do this to some extent because they are testing things out and figuring out social norms and boundaries.[/b] I really do think that some of this is normal and that we're pathologizing every incident in a way that almost undermines the truly egregious and concerning ones.

A kid was being mean to my kid at the start of camp, and my DH was quick to label it bullying and get concerned. It didn't seem that serious to me based on what I heard, and two weeks later, the kids are friends and whatever was going on is long gone.

Kids who are bullying don't typically need a bunch of judgement, and their parents knowing about it is unlikely to stop it. Parents aren't there when it happens, and the kids are not going to listen on this. What the parents need to do is try to be proactive to prevent situations ( ie I was at a party where a kid was clearly mistreating another one, and the parent was right there and didn't step in). I get being exhausted with kids like this, but you have to be vigilant.[/quote]

Please stop with your psychobabble nonsense. You clearly don't know anything about bullying and bullies. [/quote]

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