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[b]I think a lot of aging parents feel anxiety that their future needs will be more than their support people can willingly handle.[/b][/quote]

This. And I wish people generally would show more grace on this.

You do not need to tolerate rudeness or let the parents have what they want if you cannot or don't want to do so, or just can't do so. But, the anxiety of aging is very real. At over 50 and will a significant health scare behind me, and recognizing I prob only have 25-30 years ahead of me, and what that will look like, has started causing me a lot of anxiety (that I've never had before). I cannot imagine what it may be like for some elderly, esp if they are ill, lack finances, lack support.

One day many of you will be in the position of those you are complaining about. But remember, they were once teens, ballerinas, football players, nurses, mothers, sons and daughters. They were you. You're going to want compassion and empathy when the time comes. [/quote]

I'm going to be very blunt. I'm also over 50. The society up to now has always lived for the young and what's going on with currently elderly generation is anomaly. Our job is literally to raise our offspring to independence and after that, you know what, we don't matter any more. Just like any other living creature on Earth. There is no need to be anxious because you no longer matter. Nobody will care that you were once important, perhaps a politician, a scientist, wrote books, did presentations. None of this matters. I'm not afraid to age at all. My job is almost done, but I still have teens. If I die tomorrow, I know they'll manage. I'm actually finally at peace as was anxious about dying when my kids where younger. I was worried about how they'd survive. Your priorities are all wrong, you care about yourself, not about your offspring. I no longer pick up my phone because of my mother's anxiety. She cannot understand that getting old and dying is normal part of life, not some kind of tragedy that we all need to dance around. [/quote]

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