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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tormented by regret. In 40 so I am what maybe halfway through life? I am not going to harm myself, but I have a long future ahead of me. Anyone else, how did you manage with a "new" brain that suddenly haunts you? How do you last 20, 30, 40 years like this?[/quote]

Yes, people have regrets in mid-life and fear that they have ruined their chances for x or y because they made the wrong decisions in their 20’s.

Unless you truly did something awful/illegal to harm another person, you’ve made no dumb decisions - just decisions.  You can now make different ones.  Decide how you want to spend the second half of your life and start putting the building blocks of that life in place today. [/quote]

^This is good advice.[/quote]

I agree. Maybe it's denial or a defense mechanism, but I typically avoid feeling regret by believing that I made the best decisions I could at the time. With hindsight I might feel I should have done things differently but doubting my decision making ability leads to decision making paralysis. Also for the most part I can't change the results and consequences of past decisions so there's nothing to be gained by dwelling on it. If there is something that needs to be changed, I can work toward doing that.
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