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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We're all sexual creatures. We are designed to get high off of falling in love. We should all know this about ourselves, and have self-awareness when we feel a pull towards someone. Feeling a spark is normal. Sharing intimacies with that person is the danger.

I don't think it's that your marriage was missing something, necessarily. No one you've known for decades is going to feel like the bloom of new attraction. I think it's just that you hadn't put much thought into these realities and were taken by surprise.

I also think that all of us posting online are lonely and looking for connection in some way. If anything is missing in your life, I would say that it's a friendship where you can share your true self. So I'd use this as an opportunity to invest in real life friendships that don't have the risk of crossing any lines.[/quote]

This is it. Sad to write it out, but I am not high priority for my friends in real life. Just the facts. I have lots of acquaintances and regular friends, but I’m no one’s go to person. I have reached out to a few in the aftermath of all this to make plans and I know building up relationships and connections will take time.

It was just easy and fun banter and when I think about it and I mostly enjoyed that someone was interested in me. But I just want to stop thinking about this dude as something special. I am conflating the good feelings with it because I guess I was in fact lonely. I just need to stop overthinking and move on as many suggested, but my thoughts keep coming back to it (which kinda makes me nervous). Again, this was all in the past few days so hopefully with some time I will feel totally better.

I do feel better from when I first posted, so again, reassuring. [/quote]

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