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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree that it's not selfish to not want/have kids. It's pretty self aware.
However, it's definitely true that having kids offers opportunities for personal growth that I just don't see happening if you don't have them. [b]Generally, parenting forces people to become less selfish and self-focused[/b]. [/quote]

But it can make people more "my immediate family" focused and less concerned about the needs of the larger community. Not that child-free people are all, or even mostly, concerned about the wider community. There are selfish and unselfish people in both groups.

My DD is 19 and has said since she was little that she doesn't want kids. And that's fine. She wants to spend her life working on environmental restoration so I think she'll be giving more than she's taking in this world. Sure, I'd love it if she changed her mind someday but I think it's unlikely and I would never suggest to her that she should. My other kids want kids so I'll probably get to be a grandmother. But if they don't, that's ok too.

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