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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a person of color, my feeling is that parents are not really reaching out for their friends to be friends with my kids.  White moms try way more with other white moms.  Many don't even come over to introduce themselves.  When I approach, they say hi but don't really include me in the conversation.  My kid's soccer team is diverse; it's so wonderful and the parents are more inclusive.

I'm quite senior at work so it's somewhat different, but I see how people look at me without really seeing me and it's folks in my reporting chain who would probably see and say hello to a white counterpart.  For many, people of color are invisible or a non-entity.[/quote]

I thought everyone enjoyed our multicultural community till I went on a tournament trip and had to listen to a family talk about how they really wanted a wealthy private school for their kid so they could be around more wealth and specifically more wealthy people of their race. It was very clear that the school they were considering was not more diverse in their race than the current school our kids attended. They just specifically wanted to befriend the top earners in their race so they could be besties with them for life. I was told that was the main purpose. This is one of many conversations I've had where I've basically been told you are OK as another race but we prefer our own race better and you will always be just an acquaintance. This happens a lot with things like the TJ crowd or even at church, so I don't put as much effort beyond acquaintance level till you show me you are actually really interested and don't consider race a top priority for close friendships.[/quote]

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