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Anonymous wrote:All you people here who claim you hang with people unlike yourselves are either very rare or completely full of crap. The latter is far more likely.

Agree 100% and it shows how deluded many people are.

NP. A lot of people socialize out of convenience with co-workers, bosses, neighbors, cousins, the parents of their children's friends, etc. If you’re a decent, inclusive person, they’re often not “your own kind.”

Anonymous wrote:As a person of color, my feeling is that parents are not really reaching out for their friends to be friends with my kids. White moms try way more with other white moms. Many don't even come over to introduce themselves. When I approach, they say hi but don't really include me in the conversation. My kid's soccer team is diverse; it's so wonderful and the parents are more inclusive.

I'm quite senior at work so it's somewhat different, but I see how people look at me without really seeing me and it's folks in my reporting chain who would probably see and say hello to a white counterpart. For many, people of color are invisible or a non-entity.

I thought everyone enjoyed our multicultural community till I went on a tournament trip and had to listen to a family talk about how they really wanted a wealthy private school for their kid so they could be around more wealth and specifically more wealthy people of their race. It was very clear that the school they were considering was not more diverse in their race than the current school our kids attended. They just specifically wanted to befriend the top earners in their race so they could be besties with them for life. I was told that was the main purpose. This is one of many conversations I've had where I've basically been told you are OK as another race but we prefer our own race better and you will always be just an acquaintance. This happens a lot with things like the TJ crowd or even at church, so I don't put as much effort beyond acquaintance level till you show me you are actually really interested and don't consider race a top priority for close friendships.

I only hang out with fellow crackers

No. I'm African American and live in a predominantly white neighborhood.We were in our local public school until the pandemic and then switched to private school. My friend group is very diverse and my closest friends are of all races. I think the only caveat might be that we are all similarly educated and in the same general income range but as far as race, religion and nationality, my social circle(s) are very broad and diverse.

Anonymous wrote:All you people here who claim you hang with people unlike yourselves are either very rare or completely full of crap. The latter is far more likely.

Agree 100% and it shows how deluded many people are.

Anonymous wrote:I mean, of course all of us have a few diverse friends.

But in general is most of your socializing with people who are similar to you?

No, I never have lived where there were many of "my kind". I do seek it out in entertainment though. I enjoy more the personality of people and if they can make me laugh and feel happy it's a good time.

In terms of race? Yes, mostly. I’ve never had a black person to my house, though I’ve had Indian and Chinese roommates . In terms of religion? No.

As a minority, I have friends from all the major US races. I make an effort to do this, and I love hosting events. We do tend to all be educated/went to college, middle class to upper middle class.

However, it is really kind of overwhelming how many people in the US only hang out with their ethnic group or race. I see it all the time in person and online.

As a person of color, my feeling is that parents are not really reaching out for their friends to be friends with my kids. White moms try way more with other white moms. Many don't even come over to introduce themselves. When I approach, they say hi but don't really include me in the conversation. My kid's soccer team is diverse; it's so wonderful and the parents are more inclusive.

I'm quite senior at work so it's somewhat different, but I see how people look at me without really seeing me and it's folks in my reporting chain who would probably see and say hello to a white counterpart. For many, people of color are invisible or a non-entity.

I have friends of different races and religions, but we’re all middle class or UMC and generally heterosexual with children.

Anonymous wrote:All you people here who claim you hang with people unlike yourselves are either very rare or completely full of crap. The latter is far more likely.

I agree. I bet there's some major similarities that make their diverse circle more similar than not. For example, I've been good friends with what looks like a diverse bunch - there was the son of a Black Panther, the Columbian poet, the multi-talented homeless Japanese guy, the metal head who played for the Hells Angels, etc. But wherever they fall on their race/class/country of origin etc, they're all outside mainstream politically. So in that sense, I'm friends with people who are more or less outsiders like I am. It's not really a diverse set even if could look like it on paper.

All you people here who claim you hang with people unlike yourselves are either very rare or completely full of crap. The latter is far more likely.

Well, I don't currently socialize so there's that.

But I've grown up with invpretty diverse environments plus I don't really mesh well with "my kind" so I'll socialize with anyone.

Define socializing. This is a social website. I can't see what people look like here. I suspect there are different kinds of people here.

Yes. But I'm in a small university town so we all kinda look the same. And relatively have the same socio-economic status.