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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like this is probably normal for the age? Our DD recently turned 4 in April. We have experienced this too.

Honestly I wasn’t sure if I would make it through the last couple months after she was about 3.25 years old. Our sweet and well behaved beautiful girl went Jekyll and Hyde somewhere around 3.5 and it was so BAD for about four months straight. I mean epic level tantrums. She was never a fussy girl and has always been very good for the most part aside from regular kid behavior. Seeing her act out that way was shocking.

I wondered in her case if it was due to an emotional upset. There was one kid at her daycare being mean to her and asking other friends to exclude her on purpose and her tantrums and bad behavior started at this time along with a lot of crying about everything (her feelings are sensitive). We are managing the situation with the teacher and the parents of the kid(s) involved and he has moved into a different room at the daycare. I’m seeing a huge improvement since then.

She is now 4 years 2 months and the huge tantrums and oppositional behavior we saw starting around 3yrs 5 months is starting to fade away but definitely still happens when she’s (1) hungry, (2) tired, or, (3) frustrated about not having her way or feeling like she’s not being listened to.

We are giving her a *lot* more independence now and that seems like it is helping a lot also. Her personality is very similar to mine (miss very independent) and I wonder if our parenting style hadn’t evolved to meet her where she was growing up instead of still relating to her as a younger child. I’m finding ways to say “yes” more instead of always defaulting to “no” and I think that’s having a positive impact.

The other thing I did is paying better attention to blood sugar management with her — protein before simple carbs and keeping her fueled with small snacks— and making sure she gets plenty of water because dehydration can cause all kinds of negative effects in kids behavior.

Honestly it’s an age where kids brains are just growing fast and they’re experiencing different things and they want way more independence than maybe we are ready to give. So there is a lot of pull and push going on emotionally. [/quote]

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