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I just know in our culture, you either invite the whole nuclear family or none of them to a similar event. I didn't realize it was often for kids only and not adults. [/quote]

I'm Jewish and what your neighbors have done is definitely consisted with my experience.  Many is the night I stayed home with a sittrr while my older bro and parents went to bar/bat mitzvahs, and many is the night I later babysat for other younger kids in the same situation.  The bar/bat mitzvah is a ritual of the child becoming an adult, and it is often considered an event for adults (literal and religious adults).  Younger children are not going to understand the ceremony or even want to sit through it.  They are often left off the guest list for those reasons and also because these events are NOT cheap and if they started inviting everyone's siblings it would get very insane very fast, and certainly change the tone of the event.

There will be many families at this event with an older child but not a younger child. If you feel you can't respectfully share the occasion because it differs from your cultural norms, then by all means skip it. But I think that would be a bummer as these are your friends and it's a big event for them. [/quote]

This.  Exactly this.

It would be incredibly poor form for you to ask the neighbor about it, so you have four options: 1. The three invited go, find a sitter for your daughter; 2. You and son go, husband stays home with daughter; 3. You send son with someone else (I don't recommend this); 4. None of you go (which would suck).  [/quote]

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