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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I post a lot here... when DH was seriously threatened with divorce, he did a 180... in the right direction.  Therapy was a big part of that.  Avoid therapy because it "isn't your thing" at your own peril.  Our lives are wonderful now, because we did therapy even though it isn't our "thing."[/quote]

20:19 — What is your story? Why was he mean? How did you know you can still repair things?[/quote]

DH did not know how to handle anger his entire life.  He always had an excuse for inappropriate behavior- he was quitting smoking, he was hungry, he was tired.  He was always sooo sorry. On top of this, he stopped having sex with me because we could not agree on birth control.  This was actually sort of the straw that broke the camels back for me in the end.  He resented me because he felt he did too much housework.  It was awful.

Nevertheless he was living a pretty good life.  He spent about 4 days per week on his sport after work and has a very active social life.  We both make the same amount of money and are comfortable.  So my misery was not really impacting him because he was living his best life.

When I said I was done and wanted to leave he knew I meant it and he turned things around almost instantly and went to therapy.  It almost hurt more because it was so easy for him to just start acting nice after a decade and a half of taking every frustration out on me.  But after a long time I made peace with that and now we are pretty happy and our kids are doing very well and I know this is because we are together.[/quote]

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