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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not trying to be a jerk but do you think some of your issues are because you are introverted and maybe embarrassed by your son’s behavior? Try to let some if that go…. What does your son enjoy? If he’s mobile do parks or playgrounds. 
Do you have adult mom friends? Meet for coffee when kid is at school even if it’s only an hour. I have one friend I meet once a month for thrifting then Starbucks. We both look forward to it. [/quote]

Op here. I take him everywhere. This isn’t a shame thing. He elopes and is violent so I spend all my energy managing and containing him and I am too distracted by that to talk to anyone. That’s inherently my problem. I feel stuck in the house and am caregiving all the time. And I cannot combine socializing with watching my child because he’s so difficult. We have respite but the providers rarely show up. It’s just hard. I don’t expect a solution but would appreciate hearing what other people do to cope with loneliness.[/quote]

I relate to the isolation because of my husband's mental illness. Going anywhere with him tends to be pretty painful, and with our young children, I have almost time or space for a meaningful social life.

Do you think the following may be helpful to you?

My solution for now has been to befriend plants and to keep learning and building up my skills so that if and when windows open up for me to start meeting people again, Im ready to roll up sleeved and make meaningful contributions. Having many plants to water, watching them grow keeps me from stagnating. Like a depressed person might get a dog because that'll force them out to walk twice a day.

It does help a lot with the loneliness, to be surrounded by life. I garden in a "leave the leaves" way and get a healthy amount of joy from watching all the life in our back yard.

It's also nice learning together with folks online. [/quote]

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