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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother lied in the earlier stages to try to hide her capacity. Overstating what she could do, blaming others for things to cover up her forgetfulness, etc.  It was an effort to facilitate her own denial and stress and in some areas she believed her own lies (ie insisting my dad or I changed computer settings and passwords instead of admitting she could not remember how to use it).[/quote]
This is what I've mostly seen as well. A friend of mine's parents are still at home but declining rapidly. She does everything for them. Goes to their home every day, gets all their groceries, medications, drives them to bridge, dr appts etc. Her mom is telling other people that the children are basically neglectful. They do their own groceries. She goes for a walk every day. Calls their own plumbers/etc. None of this is true. She told a family member this who relayed it to my friend, obviously concerned since she also knew this wasn't true. It really really hurt my friend. She is giving up 75% of her life for them and they are so mean to her and tell everyone how neglectful she is! [/quote]

THe meanness is part of the dementia.  It sadly gets worse.[/quote]
I think that's what really struck her. Her mom was so sweet, and now she's calling her an ungrateful B for even suggesting that mom doesnt actually go to the grocery store every day  :?  That is hard to reconcile with. [/quote]

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