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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t necessarily think this is done to exclude your daughter unless she stopped responding or coming to things your daughter invited her to. 
 Is this friend even asking or inviting these other friends anywhere or are they inviting her? My daughter rarely makes her own plans but is often invited places by different friends and she attends the gatherings but I don’t encourage her to invite others when she was the invitee. Are these tweens/young teens or older teens? Mine is younger and maybe these are different situations but sometimes a friend will be going to the movies and they will text and say  their mom said they could bring 2 friends, and they swing by and pick her up. I wouldn’t think it was appropriate to invite someone else to that but maybe these are older teens. [/quote]

Younger teens and while she may not be the initiator, she NEVER reaches out to include DD.  Some of these activities are within their team, within their neighborhood, very casual etc.  I find it to be bad parenting when parents don't remind these young girls that "hey, make sure to text X and see if she'd like to get ice cream after softball too".  Dd wants the gesture from said friend more than the actual activity.  And like I said, if people from the team are getting a bite, my DD would always include this friend.

Mean parents create mean girls!!!  Parents teach your daughters to do better!!!
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OP, form everything you said, this other girl feels like she is growing apart from your DD. The friendship has run its course. It happens. My 12 year old has been in the same school K-6 (FCPS, so last year of ES). She has had soooo many different friends over those 7 years. Many girls she was good friends with at some point are still at the same school but they just are not really friends anymore. DD does not dislike them and is always nice and friendly at school, but she does not invite them to anything. Nor do I instruct her to do so. This is not mean. Teachers and parents are always telling me she is always nice to everybody. But the girls she feels closest to have changed several times over the seven years. And that will continue to happen. Unfortunately, while the growing apart is somtimes very mutual, sometimes it is not. And that can hurt. But it does not mean the other girl is mean. [/quote]

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