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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kind of just there. Wanting my attention all day. I work from home.[/quote]

She needs something to do. Can she help around the house, garden, knit for charity, write letters ...?[/quote]

Well my mother was doing this living independently and it turned into work and stress for me. Over the course of her worst year she complained her hands were not steady for writing and every time she used the computer there was some issue.She forgot about bugspray for gardening and would get all sorts of bites, culminating in the one day have the dreaded bullseye from a tick bite. Ticks are out of control in this area. She created a small fire "cooking." She refused to have a companion who might gently remind her of things and supervise. If I allowed mom to "help around the house" in my own home on her own I would have lost my mind trying to get any work done.[/quote]

Your experience is a sounding a lot like mine. Taking my elderly parent to daycare - was hours of work for me. She didn't want to go, getting her dressed and out of the house was similar to the battles I had with my 4 year old. I was so exhausted from the effort - I was useless at my job, just as I would start to feel relaxed I'd have to go pick her up. I think what I am discovering is that it's the round the clock being on. It's not that my mom needs 24/7 care, but she needs me for everything so I'm always on call. It's very hard to settle down or relax. We have tried bringing in care in the house to help entertain her - but again I have to be home to make it work, she doesn't engagement with them, won't do the exercises with them, it ends up being more work for me. I have tried leaving the house during their stay so I'm not part of the equation and I just get a mixed report that it feels like a waste of money. Like you hav lost my compassion and interest in trying to create a positive environment. I'm done. [/quote]

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