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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of it is luck.

I married into a big family. On the surface, it looks happy and vibrant. But there're lots of problems underneath. Some siblings don't get along well. Users and takers. Entitlement. Poor financial management. The list goes on.[/quote]

This is also true of my mom’s family, which is on the bigger side. She’s one of 4 siblings, her parents/my grandparents are one of 6/8, and most of them resided in the same area when I was growing up. Underneath the fun card games at Thanksgiving and trips to the theme parks and water parks and weddings, there was a lot of drama. [/quote]

Same. My mom was one of 6. I had such a great childhood with all my aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents. I didn't see or notice the drama. When my grandparents died (I was mid 30s), the siblings all fought nonstop and have never seen any again. I kept in touch, but it's awkward and they aren't located anywhere near me. I definitely had more than a few years where I mourned the big family holidays and was so sad that my holidays were quiet. I still miss my cousins dearly, but I look at it now as just a phase of childhood and I'm glad I had them then. I think a lot of big families are like that. Happy and jolly, but pretty close to falling apart with the adults. It solidified my decision to have at least 3 kids though. Those quiet family holidays with dh and just my parents were very sad. And then the next day it was just dh and his parents. [/quote]

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