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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Help us moms out, give us tips.[/quote]

I am an adult daughter. 
I do NOT care about my mom re-telling for the millionth time stories about things people said or did when she was working as a junior high teacher 15+ years ago in a rural Midwestern small town. My children are not yet in middle school, I live in a totally different region and school system, and things have changed so much since Covid. Instead of “momsplaining” to me or rehashing ancient slights, she could ASK how my kids are doing, how our school works, and generally approach the topic with curiosity first before going off on a tangent to turn the conversation back to herself. She could ask me how I FEEL about how my kids are doing or how our school approaches different things.

She could ask me about my job. Like ever. I don’t think she knows what I do, what level I am, or even that I lead 4 different teams within my department. 
I recently ran my first half marathon. They forgot it was happening and then when I was walking slowly the next day, they didn’t ask me how it went. 
I went out of town for my husband’s sister’s wedding shower. They asked if I had a nice time. I said yes and started to tell my mom a few short details and was interrupted so she could tell me a story about some drama in her church crafting group. It’s always about her. Her church group, her neighbors, her library volunteer friends, etc. I could write a novel about some of her acquaintances and she would be hard pressed to name a single one of my friends since college.

Every weekend we see my parents. The kids tell them the highlights from the week and usually have some photos or school work to share. I always ask my parents what they have coming up in the week ahead, did they make any new recipes, watching any new shows, what books are they reading? I am trying to teach my children to express interest in others and have conversations instead of just answering questions adults ask them. My parents never ask me what I have coming up. What am I excited about? What am I dreading? What is stressing me out? My parents don’t know and don’t care. All they want to know is my kids’ sports schedules and when can they see my kids. [/quote]

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