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[quote=Anonymous][quote]In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?[/quote]

Simple.  In places where women do not have equity and are restricted by gender roles and patriarchy, a marriage to someone attractive (an indication of health and attraction bias) with resources is a survival strategy.  Those women don't have the "luxury" of self-actualization and choice.

Women who don't need the resources a 'good' marriage would bring can prioritize characteristics/attributes that appeal to their psyche.

I'm one of those women you don't understand.  I have advanced degrees, owned my own home before meeting now-DH and have always made significantly more than he did. I'm seen as far more accomplished than him and I actually had a couple people, like you, question me about his suitability.  If they'd had more emotional intelligence (like my DH does) they'd know that we are exceptionally well matched in the ways that are important to us.  I don't need him to be tall (he's 5'8") with a high paying job.  I find him attractive, intelligent, fun, a good partner and emotionally available. I earn the money I want and have a different definition of 'success'.  Been married 30 years. But, if you don't get it, you don't get it.

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