Anonymous
Post 04/19/2024 10:51     Subject: Explain this
"What's wrong with her?" meaning how some women are so different than the heard?
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 18:08     Subject: Explain this
Anonymous wrote:In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?

My BFF's DD 26 insists on staying with her average looking, short, perpetual student BF (undergrad, double grad, now PhD) even though (cultural matchmaking)she has highly successful and good looking tall men (26-32)willing to marry her as she is young, pretty, intelligent and earns well. She can date and marry any one of them and have a comfy life.


She says they'll build their life together in due time. When made aware of failure to launch phenomena and what it does to marriages, she says that happens to people with unrealistic expectations, she isn't looking for Instagram marriage, five star honeymoon and happily ever after and looks fade and height adds no real value to life.

What's wrong with her?


What's wrong with her? Not a darn thing.

She sounds far more mature and far less shallow than you.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 17:03     Subject: Explain this
isn't this ripped from the show never have i ever?
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 15:29     Subject: Explain this
Anonymous wrote:I think OP is seeing it as not good looking AND won't make money.

Plenty of short, unattractive rich guys have stunning wives . . . because of their money.

There could be many reasons why this woman prefers her short, unattractive, iffy on income guy. But it's non of OP's business.


Or....maybe its their personality and kindness-crazy I know.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 15:26     Subject: Re:Explain this
Anonymous wrote:
In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?


Simple. In places where women do not have equity and are restricted by gender roles and patriarchy, a marriage to someone attractive (an indication of health and attraction bias) with resources is a survival strategy. Those women don't have the "luxury" of self-actualization and choice.

Women who don't need the resources a 'good' marriage would bring can prioritize characteristics/attributes that appeal to their psyche.




DC is one of those places.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 15:25     Subject: Explain this
Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with her? Nothing.


Exactly but there seems to be something wrong with OG!
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 15:25     Subject: Re:Explain this
Anonymous wrote:


Simple. In places where women do not have equity and are restricted by gender roles and patriarchy, a marriage to someone attractive (an indication of health and attraction bias) with resources is a survival strategy. Those women don't have the "luxury" of self-actualization and choice.

Women who don't need the resources a 'good' marriage would bring can prioritize characteristics/attributes that appeal to their psyche.



DC is one of those places.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 15:21     Subject: Explain this
Anonymous wrote:I'll be glad to explain.

it's none of your damn business you judgemental narrow minded gossiping b**ch.

now go about your business and stay away from anyone else's relationships.



Forgot your meds?
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2024 13:17     Subject: Re:Explain this
In a world where most women go for looks, height, success and money , why some women with lots of choices go for love and friendship?


Simple. In places where women do not have equity and are restricted by gender roles and patriarchy, a marriage to someone attractive (an indication of health and attraction bias) with resources is a survival strategy. Those women don't have the "luxury" of self-actualization and choice.

Women who don't need the resources a 'good' marriage would bring can prioritize characteristics/attributes that appeal to their psyche.

I'm one of those women you don't understand. I have advanced degrees, owned my own home before meeting now-DH and have always made significantly more than he did. I'm seen as far more accomplished than him and I actually had a couple people, like you, question me about his suitability. If they'd had more emotional intelligence (like my DH does) they'd know that we are exceptionally well matched in the ways that are important to us. I don't need him to be tall (he's 5'8") with a high paying job. I find him attractive, intelligent, fun, a good partner and emotionally available. I earn the money I want and have a different definition of 'success'. Been married 30 years. But, if you don't get it, you don't get it.