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[quote=Anonymous]In a “blended” family - but no step siblings, just “half” with a significant age difference.  Our conflicts aren’t around or caused by  the blended part.  But what has helped is enough money, removing egos from relationships, distinguishing between needs and wants, and realizing love isn’t a a zero-sum game.

My view, after being a step parent for 10+ years, seeing the blended families on my step’s other side, and seeing close friends’ and relatives’ non-blended and blended families is that it’s not the blending that causes issues.

Most people have conflicts in families, because some people are selfish and dramatic and have to have everything revolve around them.  They might extend that circle a bit to include their children, but maybe only some of their children.   They may be jealous of their spouse’s relationship with their shared children.   They may be unable to meet their biological children where they are and expect that they can make their kids into someone they aren’t.

In fact, most of the posters here who are adamant about  NEVER being in a blended family are the type of people who would prove the source of family drama and therapy bills for biological/adopted children.

But the practical answer is money, flexible expectations for what a “family” looks and acts like, and the ability to see another person’s point of view.  [/quote]

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