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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spouse's self-absorption. He would like me to be happy, because then his life would be more pleasant, but not if that means doing something he is not naturally inclined to do.

Sort of like this:
https://www.swistle.com/2018/05/17/fading-pique-second-mothers-day-update/

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You know.  I have felt this same way.  I’ve learned over time that my frustration wasn’t just that he didn’t care how I felt, but also that he wasn’t willing to share how he felt.  
He had some pent up childhood stuff that no one would care about how he felt, and consequently when I shared how I felt, he thought I was being self-indulgent and maybe kind of foolish, like something really bad might happen.  
It took me really pushing to get my way on something that was important to both of us for him to finally open up with his opinions (other than that I was being stupid).  Once he was able to do that, our relationship got so much better, and we were talking on the same kind of level.  [/quote]

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