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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We conceived #1 so easily, I just assumed #2 would be easy as well.  I think already having our daughter helps having unexplained secondary infertility not be as all consuming.  We don't have a ton of money laying around to pursue treatments, anyway, so we couldn't go down that road even if we wanted to.  I also developed thyroid disease after having our child, so I'm not a big fan of extra medications - even if we do decide to go forward with treatment, it would be through IUI ONLY.  I'm not even sure I WANT to be pregnant again.  I would probably go right to adoption if I thought my husband would be OK with that.

I'm honestly starting to think we're one and done - we've been trying for 2 years on our own and nothing.  Our kid is already 6.5.  I'm 35.  Do we still have time?  Sure.  Is my heart in it?  I'm not sure.  We shall see.

If adoption feels right to you, you don't HAVE to do treatments.  Only you and your husband can determine what is best for you.  [b]Don't let society tell you what the right sequence of events should be.[/b][/quote]

Agree. [b]Though we should also note that society often tells you to "just adopt[/b]".[/quote]

I agree that society often says "just adopt" but wanted to add that as an adoptive parent, we also get snide and rude remarks from people who don't understand WHY we'd want to adopt.  People who make comments about us not being our kids' "real" parents, etc.  I guess if you don't build your family in a non-traditional way, whether you have fertility problems or not, people are going to judge you regardless.[/quote]

OP here. Sorry it's been awhile since I first posted. We've been out of town for August. Our infertility is unexplained and I am relatively young, although the more time that passes the less fertile I'll be. We're both on the same page about not doing treatments (with the potential to reopen the discussion later) and about not adopting. I hope with all my heart that we, and all of the PPs who posted and are currently trying to conceive or adopt, do end up with a healthy baby. On the other hand, I hope I am strong enough to withstand the questioning from others if we end up without a baby. They may think that we didn't really "try".[/quote]

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