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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s normal. I don’t really like calling 2nd graders mean girls, because I think it’s really rare that a second grader is actually a mean girl (as a 7th or 8tb grader would be) - it’s more that 2nd graders are pretty clueless about friendship & social skills. They are all struggling, trying things on, saying dumb stuff. ..not a lot of it is calculated exclusionary mean girl bullying like in middle school. It’s more kids struggling to figure out social norms & acceptable behavior.

So yes, tell your DD to take a break from anyone being mean. If they seem kinder the next week, then go for it, play with them again. [/quote]

+1000 to this and to the comment that this not isolated to girls. Gah it’s pretty sexist we make these conclusions about girls only.

This is almost always kids building social skills and trying to feel things out rather than malicious intent. They’re learning to be human. [/quote]

NP, I agree with all of this![/quote]

NP, I disagree with all of this. It is typically seen more often with girls than boys and it’s almost always behavior modeled by their mean-girl moms who never grew up. These 8-yr olds aren’t “figuring out” social skills and coming up with these behaviors out of thin air, they’re emulating their mothers. The kids displaying these behaviors at 8 almost always end up being the “mean girls” in middle school. I’m a die-hard feminist and this isn’t sexism, it’s reality. It’s nurture, not nature. [/quote]

Have you hung out with an eight year old boy lately? They can be real jerks. Usually it’s in a less sophisticated way because their social skills are generally a little behind girls. [/quote]

I agree.  I have both a boy and a girl. I am much more worried about his capacity to be mean to classmates than his sister.  Obviously, they are different people, but they way they interact has made me realize my boy child will need a lot more "training" on empathy than my daughter.[/quote]

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