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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a very difficult position to be in, I'm glad to see you are looking at the options. I would start by saying if you were the executor of their estate if they weren't living, you absolutely could pay yourself from their assets for the jobs you are doing. You shouldn't feel guilty about wanting to be compensated.

Divide your list by what you don't mind doing, what you would like to be paid for doing (and set an amount) and what you can easily have someone else to do. In my case, I pay my parent's bills (with their money but I'm the one doing it), collect the tax materials but pay a tax prepare to do the actual tax returns. Some things take time for the parents to get used and some are better just ripping the bandaid off.

Absolutely take time for yourself. Can you take a short vacation? Getting away, to clear your mind and your body can help to refresh you. And if you can't get away on a vacation, take a vacation from your responsibilities. Put it on the calendar - don't do anything for them. Nothing. Just don't. Don't feel guilty, don't feel bad. You can't help others if you don't care for yourself.

What do you love doing? Find time for that - maybe its time with friends or going to the movies.

Ultimately, the reality of this is - it won't last forever. It might get harder and there are a lot of emotions involved in the process but you really can set some of the tone and work. [/quote]

Thank you! This is very kind. [/quote]

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