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[quote=Anonymous][quote]It’s not in our culture but I would definitely use proximity to parents to ask for money!
All work has to be rewarded

No, this is just lame and gross.

You have kids. Think about all the "unrewarded" work you do raising them. All the poop, pee, and vomit you clean up, the meals you prepare, the clothes you wash, the day care, schooling, summer camps, and sports you plan and pay for, etc. etc. etc. How much time and effort you spend taking care of them. Your parents did all that for you. For you to think "I should be paid for taking care of them on the back end" is self-absorbed to say the least.[/quote]

Does this come into play when the completely uninvolved siblings suddenly show up expecting their full share of the inheritances? I'm a PP who has taken unpaid leave to deal with my parent's move out; who regularly drives miles and miles; who uses most of my sick leave to take her to appointments, and who has had to scale back on work (and moving up at work) all of which impacts me, my career, our finances, etc. My sibling, who does not have any other family responsiblities at all (spouse, kids, pets, etc) will receive half of the estate, which is fine, but in the meantime I am spending sigificantly more time and even money (gas, wear and tear, unpaid leave, opportunities for promotion). I actually think he would be fine with me "charging" for care, but I also am aware that my mom needs to conserve resources, since she will require memory care soon.

finally, i hate to say it, but my mom did  very little of the parenting you mention. She was mentally /emotionally ill a lot, and although we were not very wealthy, she used the money she inherited from her parents to hire a live-in housekeeper/caretaker for a few years, so she had very little to do (she also did not work). I dont remember her spending much time with us for the first 8-9 years of my life.  and as soon as my dad left, I was responsible for making dinners, doing my laundry, figuring out how to get to/from school and classes, etc when we didn't have someone to help with driving or my dad coudn't do it. [/quote]

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