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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s awful. I have no advice, bc nothing I’ve tried has worked. It’s so frustrating, and then it becomes infuriating.

I will definitely read what others say, though. In the meantime I just wanted to say that I see you, and you are not alone. [/quote]

All of this!
My MIL "doesn't want to be a burden" but will not move into a home. She's in a wheelchair and wears adult diapers.  Her dementia is progressively getting worse.  She's had so many mini-strokes that I've lost count.  She cannot even make meals or go to the restroom alone.  FIL died last year.  We've hired a FT caregiver, many actually, and she doesn't want "strangers" in her home.  Then we moved her to to BILs house.... She still doesnt like any caregiver except family. It's such a HUGE BURDEN.  When she says "she doesn't want to be a burden" it infuriates me every time.  BIL is on the verge of divorce because of this and SIL is looking to us to 'take her in' because she "just can't".  No F(ck!ng way![/quote]

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