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[quote=Anonymous]Op is she is in good health then I suggest you work on moving her to assisted living while she is able to make a decision, adjust, make friends , etc. waiting for things to get worse is only going to delay (and save money) but eventually it will be too much for you and you will either have caregivers in the home or assisted living. My mom sounds similar. She doesn’t present as having dementia but she can’t drive, take med, handle any finances or technology and can’t remember day to day. She is fairly happy in assisted living and though it took a while for her to adjust she is actually in a better state than she was at home with caregivers because she is social and active. She uses the little gym to do the arm bike, she actually sleeps at normal
Hours because she doesn’t want to miss meals, (she had horrible sleep habits my whole life, after my dad left  we used to eat dinner at 9 -10 pm until I was old enough to fend for myself , she’d fall asleep on the couch watching tv at 3 am etc…) …anyway it’s not cheap but she is getting decent care. They give her medications; all meals; there are social activities; and I hired someone twice a week to help her with whatever she wants (errands, her laundry shower etc—the al offers that but it was cheaper to hire someone else and I like having a second set of eyes on things plus my mom just likes attention).

I’d really have this conversation now with her. Tell her it’s time for her to have more support than you can handle. Either that or leave her at home and live your life but only you can judge whether that’s actually safe.[/quote]

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