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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD has said she was a teen that she didn't want kids. Ha-ha ok you will change your mind is what everyone always told her. No, she's never wavered. She's in her late 20s and has been married for 3 years now (with her husband for 8 years total). She just told me that she found a doctor who was willing to do a tubal ligation so she could be done with birth control. It felt like a gut punch when she told me.

DS is in his early 30s and is getting married this fall. He's been with his fiancée for 4 years and they too have told us they have zero desire for kids. I thought for sure they would have kids as she's an elementary teacher and works at a kids camp in the summer.

How do I get over these feelings of failure? I know I raised great kids but at the same time, I feel like both are being selfish and it makes me angry. Is this something therapy helps with? 
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You are not the center of this universe, this has nothing to do with what you did or want or hope, its about their lives, their partners, their futures and their preferences. Its and odd and not a good enough reason to have kids to fulfill grandma's dreams or to certify her parenting.[/quote]

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