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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it sounds like *you* don't want him to be unhappy/lonely, but he may be perfectly fine with it.

I speak from experience where my stepson (who lived with us) was like this in high school.  He really never had a friend the entire HS time.  He played on a HS sports team, he played a rec sport, but he never had a kid over to our house, he was never invited to anything.  And this was before kids were doing everything online, e.g., gaming together.

But I knew what it was, he was probably on spectrum (not diagnosed) and he was a kid who desired the company of adults over peers.  I could definitely see why friends weren't in the mix.
And it bothered me more than it bothered him.  I thought of all the fun I had in HS, all the running around I did with friends, and I was sad he was missing out on that.  But I had to step back and tell myself this is his life and experience, not mine.

Now your son could hit it off with a friend or two tomorrow.  Or next school year.  My stepson never did.  But fast forward to his mid-20s when he's in his chosen career, getting married, and starting his family soon after.  He still doesn't really have friends, he has "people he knows", but he adores his wife and he's an amazing father.  It's just who he is.[/quote]

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