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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]$500-1000 depending how close you are. [/quote]

Holy crap.  That is a ton of money! What do you people do for a living?

Do you not have a mortgage, klds in college, retirement to save for, and other expenses?

We have had the same furniture for thirty years, we drive old cars, and rarely go on vacation together, for just a few examples.  HTH are we supposed to afford that kind of wedding present?  How much are they spending on these outrageous weddings?

Dh and I paid for our own wedding entirely, got nothing but crap from his family, and all we asked is that people show up and enjoy themselves, which apparently was a tall order.  I could not imagine expecting that amount for a cash gift. Are these PPs brides to be who are posting??  They want money??

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PP...I think these people posting $500-$1,000 are going to weddings that probably cost $75K or more to host.

30 years ago, when I was single, I would buy a $50 gift. $100 for a good friend.  Now my family is financially secure, I would give about $300. That's still generous enough but not remarkable.

Most of today's couples don't need physical gifts because they are well established in life, so a pragmatic (although impolite) way to look it at it, is to estimate how much it is costing them to host you for the reception and give somewhat more than that.  I know it's bad manners in the US to think that way but some cultures consider wedding gift cash as a way to crowdfund a village celebration.  I like that notion myself - I'm giving to help the wedding couple celebrate with me.

Or you could buy a present if you are a talented gift giver or they have a registry.  The registry's most expensive items should give you a clue about the couple's economic assumptions.

Sidebar: The best wedding present we got was an absolutely versatile but inexpensive kitchen pan we received from an elderly work colleague of my parent. It was his personal recommendation. I bet that guy would have been thrilled to know he picked the best gift over two decades of use.  All the formal stuff has remained largely unused even though I love how it looks.  
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