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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a recently divorced woman in my late 40s and I find that I enjoy dating a LOT more than I did when I was in my 20s. Why? I think it comes down to my feeling less pressure about the outcome of my dates than I did before I got married. I am not looking for a husband - I had one. I am not looking for a father for my children - they have one. I’m just looking to meet cool people to spend time with.

I wish I had been able to just enjoy dating 20-some years ago, but it was so stressful and I put so much pressure on myself and read so much into everything that any man said or did and spent so much time with my girlfriends analyzing our dates every move.

Am I alone in this, or is dating just easier at this point in life?
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This goes back to what many have be saying about dating.  Stop dating to look for your husband.  Date to be in a relationship.  If that relationship turns out great and you find a husband - perfect.  But, trying to only date men who think think (again, think) will be your husband is a horrible way of going about dating.  Too many women do this and later on regret it.

The goal of dating is not to date potential husbands.  The goal of dating is to find someone you can be with in a strong relationship.  If that relationship happens to lead to marriage then that's great.  But, expecting ever relationship to have potential marriage is a disaster.[/quote]

Agree. When I was single in my early 20s I wasn’t dating to find a husband I was dating to have fun, companionship and sex. Eventually I started dating a guy for those same reasons but over time it evolved into a lot more. If every guy you date is viewed as potential husband material you will be very disappointed. [/quote]

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