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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I gained a lot of weight which I haven’t lost (about forty pounds overweight) and I’m treated this way.  It’s disheartening.  I wonder if men have the same experience?

I’m also 38 but look slightly younger, but curious if by the time I lose it I’ll just be “old” and therefore not worth being nice to.

V depressing [/quote]

At around 37 I lost a lot of weight and had the experience of going from invisible to visible.  What I have noticed is just much nicer treatment.  For example, I was looking for a specific item in a plumbing supply store but I wasn’t sure about the size I needed, so the young guy at the counter just gave it to me.  This wouldn’t have happened if I were at my previous weight.  It just wouldn’t have.  I initially found it jarring and once started a thread about it and other women noticed the same thing.

People (men and women) smile and are just nicer at places where we’re all a little annoyed like at Costco.  Men will be more inclined to help with things like putting my bag in the overhead compartment on the plane- things like that.  Now there are always some people who are nice, polite, and helpful.  But now that I am thinner, there seem to be a lot MORE of those people, and an awful lot seem to be very eager men.  I initially found it quite jarring and once started a thread about it and other women noticed the same thing.

I wish we were a society that respected all older people and gave them this treatment but we aren’t.  It is what it is.  I feel lucky that at nearly 40 years old I am getting treated this way and when it’s gone, it’s gone and that’s fine.  I survived a decade being overweight and invisible and my life was otherwise absolutely fine.  My husband always sees the most beautiful girl when he looks at me and that’s all that matters.[/quote]

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