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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last fall DD and her boyfriend broke up. We saw her two months later and I thought she'd gained weight but wasn't positive because it was Thanksgiving and she was wearing thicker and baggier clothing. When she came home for Christmas break it was clear she'd gained 15-20lbs and her skin has broken out horribly. I asked if she was still using the silk pillowcases and washing them regularly, she said yes. We stocked the fridge and pantry with healthy options and DH and I work out each day and always invited her along - sometimes she said yes, sometimes no, but couldn't keep up. I am concerned. Do I say something directly? [b]We have never commented on weight - just eating healthy and moving a lot.[/b][/quote]

Your DD is not an idiot. Every time you ask about eating healthy and "moving", she knows you are worried she is or will get fat.

Also, silk pillowcases don't help acne, medicine does. Why don't you take her to the dermatologist?

Why don't you tell her she seems a bit down after her first break up and is she OK, and if not does she want to talk about it with you or a therapist?  First break up is a doozy for everyone. Tell her about one of your early bad break ups and sympathize instead of shaming. [/quote]

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