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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you believe that 50 years ago, stopping by to visit was normal. No one was that busy that they couldn’t be social. I personally would prefer that era instead of the craziness on my life today.[/quote]

This.
It’s not an imposition unless you treat it as a high holy day when she comes over. She doesn’t need to be “entertained”—she just wants to be part of your lives, OP.
If your folding laundry while your DD is practicing piano, keep doing that and offer a chair to MIL so she can listen to DD while you continue folding laundry.
Your life doesn’t need to stop when she comes over. She just wants to be part of it.[/quote]

I had a situation (before moving) similar to the OP's, and I feel guilty reading the responses.

I can say that in my case, my MIL's presense... well, she wanted a very old-fashioned, super close relationship. She wanted to be IN and PART of the our nuclear family. Like, she would come by with muffins, say, but stay an hour and we would all hang out with her.

I think in the olden days, it would ahve been that I "married his family." Maybe it should be that way, but I didn't want it that way> I didn't want hre to be constantly present almost as if we were three adults living together, or as if she part-time lived with us. WHihc is what she wanted.

Nothing wrong with wanting that as a MIL. Nothing wrong with not wanting your MIL to be at your house many hours a week. But it's hard[/quote]

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