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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is a list of recommendations that can make it a little safer/less stressful. In particular having a current photo, the ID bracelet (or conceal ID in a shoe), and teaching how to cross the street if you can.

https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/disabilityandsafety/wandering.html

[b]I wonder if you really did have to pick him up after he broke the plates. [/b]As you say, this isn't sustainable for you physically as he grows. What would you do if you really couldn't lift him anymore? You might like to look into Pathological Demand Avoidance parenting strategies, because a lot of it's about how the parent can survive and endure really really really horrible and disrespectful behavior. Sometimes it's painful to read it, because the advice is things like, "take deep breaths while your child is screaming at you". Or "ask him politely to slap you less hard". But for people in that situation I think it helps.[/quote]

Op here. He was barefoot and there was broken glass everywhere. [/quote]

Plastic plates in the future sounds like the way to go, then. Think through your home and all the reasons you might need to lift and carry him, and try to eliminate them. The easiest person to change and control in this situation is yourself, right? So do everything you can to lighten your physical load.

Similarly, you felt you had to carry him home. Because he was naked, right? Or as a consequence? What alternatives might there be-- could you keep a "go bag" by your door with a blanket or robe in it?  Because you are right to think this lifting and carrying is going to cause you an injury. And then you'll be injured and he'll be outside and then what?

Try Casey Ehrlich's work on Instagram and Youtube. She really focuses on parents trying to come up with their own solutions for their specific child, and she gives a lot of empathy for how incredibly difficult this is.[/quote]

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