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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you move on after being deeply hurt? Someone close to me (not romantically) did something extremely hurtful several months ago. I know they did not intend to hurt me, and they have apologized as well as proactively tried to make it up to me. But it still just hurts. Circumstances keep us interacting regularly. And occasionally things happen that resurface the hurtful thing.

I've tried therapy, and it's helpful...but it's also been months now. Is it possible to move past something like this?[/quote]

The reason it still hurts is because you have internalized feelings of shame that you should have known better and then this makes you feel weak and like you  did something wrong. You also default to believing that your failings are the center of other people’s attention. [/b]

It’s ok to reflect back and say oh yeah now I see how they acted in that situation and in hindsight I can see how I ignored it. And then consider going forward you will look out for that behavior

The friend did something crappy, it sucked and it hurt your feelings. That’s not shameful. It happens all the time. To everyone. No one is immune.

[b]Whatever happened people around you have long forgot and if they do remember and bring it up then your response yep that was a terrible thing they did to me, it really hurt. They apologized and we have moved on …

It’s also ok to just drop the person if you want. You can be polite but that’s all you need to do. Quickly exit conversations, talk only about generic stuff, and give generic answers.[/quote]

Bold type is spot on.  We think about ourselves - worry about what others think,  but they’ve moved on. Almost immediately. We’re all in our own heads.[/quote]

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