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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]By the OP’s description, the “friend” has a big mouth vs being mean spirited. Take it as a lesson learned. Don’t divulge sensitive information to her ever again. She can’t handle it.

Without information from the OP, it’s difficult to determine the friend’s intention. Good luck OP. I am in the camp that time heals most wounds.[/quote]

If true, I get why it's so hard for OP to move on. This happened to me and the betrayal went really deep. I know my friend's actions were not intentional -- it's just who she is. But it's not just that she shared things about me she should not have. It's also that she solicited my confidences. So even though I can see it's just her personality, that she does these things compulsively and without real malice, it was also so much bigger than a slip of the tongue.

And once you realize this has happened, it's so hard to even know how to behave around that person. Because again, it's not just that they said something they shouldn't have. They drew this information out of me. So it's like I could not trust myself around them. I just could never feel comfortable interacting with them. I forgave them but the damage from their actions just destroyed something fundamental in our relationship. It was not reparable.

In the end, I had more anger towards them for killing our friendship than for betraying my confidence. It was very hard to move on from. I mostly have, but thinking about it as I wrote this still gave me this bad feeling in my gut.[/quote]

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