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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My spouse and I don’t fight often-maybe 2/3 times a year (I’m not counting tiny disagreements that happen within daily life. But when we do he makes up for the infrequency with a terrible temper and then going completely silent until I break. He never apologizes. He never takes responsibility. I hate it so much. I have told him numerous times that his response to fighting is not how an adult person should be handling it but this is just who he is. [b]He is a great father and a good husband during regular times.[/b] But I mean, fighting is a part of marriage and his response makes me so angry every time it happens. I am in therapy and now simply walk away when it happens but it doesn’t change his response. He will not do therapy and thinks it’s pointless.

Sometimes I think about spending the rest of my life like this and I want to throw up. He quite literally reacts like a 12 year old.

I have tried numerous strategies-giving him space, telling him not to talk to me in a certain tone. It seems to just add fuel to the fire. Nothing changes.

Anybody have experience with a spouse like this?[/quote]

So you are able to fully get over how he acts once it has passed? I feel like I'd have a hard time viewing him as a great husband the rest of the time if I were waiting for this shoe to drop every four months or so. [/quote]

DP in my cases his rages became more frequent and then the pattern and his problems could not be ignored. He even unmasked in front of my parents several times, and yells at my mother when she tried to help him with a broken pot once and how to cook something.

Everyone is scared of him. He has money, he’s a total a-hole, he has no emotions and sleeps like a baby after telling you off.

He’s currently in victim mode, going around saying: I can’t stand you. 
When you ask why the tv isn’t working, and he confesses it’s been down for over a week. Says that and then storms off suddenly angry at 9pm.

Who TF knows what is going on in his head. [/quote]

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