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[quote=Anonymous]Team husband. He has no obligation to visit.

That said, it sounds like you going by yourself with the three kids is untenable. If so, I would try to do one of these:

1. Go by yourself with only one or two of your kids, with the expectation that in a couple years you (by yourself) can take all three kids for visits once the kids are older (I have a SN kid so I get it).

2. Go with your DH once every year or so, but stay for exactly one overnight and then travel on to somewhere else cool. Can DH deal with a single overnight?

3. Get your DH to compromise - you both do a single 3-4 day trip together to your parents in 2024, with the understanding with DH that you never ask again. Because next year you can skip a travel year (hey mom and dad, we visited last year so this year you come to us) and then the kids are older so in two years you take them by yourself. I have plenty of friends where only one person in the couple takes the kids to their parents, and the spouse stays home. Not odd.

Some of these suggestions involve compromises where your DH visits your parents. I am wholeheartedly in his court and thinks he owes them nothing. But if he loves you, it’s not unthinkable that he wouldn’t come up with a lesser alternative where he takes one for the team and just goes, so you can see your parents. But both of these compromises involve significantly reduced visits than you’re proposing. Your plan of 2 visits a year in perpetuity is absolutely madness. [/quote]

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