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[quote=Anonymous]Team DH. The situation with your parents (and your relationship with them) sounds a lot like the dynamic with my DH and ILs. I’ll give you the perspective from the other side. We’ve been married almost 20yrs and have 3 teens. Here is what I will tell you, though it may be difficult to hear: if your parents and your DH are getting into fights over a period of years along with the other drama you describe- and this dynamic has gone on for THIS long- you almost certainly bear some responsibility for this dynamic. You make yourself sound like an innocent bystander in all of this, which is highly unlikely to be the case. While I’m absolutely sure you didn’t intend to (these things can be so difficult, and it isn’t your fault your parents are this way)- you probably failed to set boundaries or handle things well at some point along the way. Your DH is likely fed up and has had enough, and he doubts future visits will be any different than past visits.

I don’t see any point of pushing DH to go. It will probably go poorly. You sound very conflicted about the relationship with your parents as it is- seems there may continue to be drama, and adding DH into the mix will make things worse. Go on your own and take the kids (or however many kids you can manage- maybe 1-2 kids at a time).

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