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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I once asked DW why she doesn't initiate. She said it was because once when she was pregnant, after we had sex and fell asleep, she half woke up and initiated a second round , and when I commented on it (approvingly) the next day, (trying to communicate and encouraging), thinking about being sexualadr.her feel shamed. 
She also says she doesn't like trying new things [I] for her enjoyment [/I] beyond super vanilla Catholic procreation style, because, as she explains, "every time" I try (only about once a year) she feels awkward as soon as I start leading into doing it, immediately pushes me away. (Coincidentally, our kid only eats chicken nuggets and pizza type foods because she doesn't want DC to feel uncomfortable trying new foods.)

I realized that the stereotypical conventional wisdom about couples and sex is conventional wisdom for a reason, despite the loud protestations of some people who claim to be lifelong enthusiasts and who claim that women only dislike sex when men are selfish and lazy.

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So everything you just said points to socialization and cultural norms being reasons why some women might not want sex or try new things. Yet are acting like a stereotypical man and not doing anything to help your wife become aware of these things or find ways to become comfortable (therapy). [/quote]

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