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[quote=Anonymous]Is she on birth control pills? I was on the pill for 10 years, got off of it to get pregnant and had NO idea what a sex drive was until I came off those stupid hormones. It may not be her fault!

Fwiw--my dh and I have gone through swings.  He wants more than I do for sure but things that have helped:

--I had asked him for a massage because my neck was tense and after he finished I told him how amazing it felt and how different a person I was after just those 5 minutes.  He told me that's how he feels about sex, sometimes he just needs it to feel better (btw he's not a bad guy, I hope this doesn't come out wrong)
--I told him that when he grabs my ass or makes an otherwise overt attempt to tell me he wants sex tonight, it can be a total turnoff.  He agreed to give me the upperhan for a month, no pressure from his side at all and that really helped!  It made me want him more. I also agreed that I wouldn't take every ass-grab as a signal of wanting sex but that he finds me attractive :)
--we started a "sex jar" and drop a dollar in every time we do it.  By the end of the year we will take that money and do something fun just the two of us.  It makes it a little game and it's kind of fun to count how much we have.

Be patient with her. But talk to her. Good luck! I went from being a DW who only cared for sex 1-2 times a month to wanting it 2-3/week. It's possible![/quote]

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