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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My advice is to buy good sex toys for her (expensive ones like lelo or jimmyjane) and clean the house. Seriously. Not to be blunt but if she isn't interested in having sex with you it means that she isn't enjoying it and does not find you sexually attractive. She may still love you, find you physically atrractive but the sexual attraction is gone and having sex with you is one more chore or thing she needs to do. The reality is that most women end up doing more on the second shift with the kids, house upkeep, cooking on top of working that men do. This is soul sucking and exhausting. If you feel like cleaning up, doing laundry etc is "kissing her ass" or "helping out" rather than something that you need to do then wake up now and kick your ass in gear. The attitude alone of doing parenting and home upkeep is helping or something that you need to be asked to do kills the sexual attraction and just builds a combination of resentment and regret in your partner. Step up and be an equal partner. She'll be less exhausted and respect you more.

Second, its hard to get back in the groove after not enjoying sex for so long. The good toys, especially if she never used them before, work pretty fast. It makes it different. Warning another blunt comment coming on..it seems, at least among the women that I talk to, that men fall into routines in doing the same thing in bed fr years. The problem with this is that if you do this and [b]you do anything remotely annoying (most people do their partners just don't say anything), this will become the focus of the whole experience for her [/b]because it happens every single time. The toys can break up the routine. [/quote]

How do you deal with that?[/quote]

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