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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have the same issue with my mother-in-law, but you know what it makes her happy and honestly keeps her busy. If she can’t afford it, that would be another issue. We did have to be upfront though, because she will ask us where such and such item is when she visits and so DH says mom, we’ve told you we don’t use those items so we donate them if you give them to us. She still continues to do so ….so whatever.   [/quote]

This is the right approach: tell the person what you think about their behavior in a courteous way, and if that doesn't change their behavior, deal with it another way. If they ask where the stuff is, tell them it's donated. If they get weird about it, that's THEIR problem, not yours.

OP, you're at the beginning of your parenting journey. Take it from me, someone with kids in college, you will have many other battles to fight. This isn't worth having conniptions over. You donate or get rid of stuff, and that's it.

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I disagree. I think when you let smaller things slide and don’t enforce boundaries, it causes space for larger violations and boundary stomps to occur. You are giving yourself all of those battles to fight by not having boundaries in circumstances that should be very easy to manage and enforce politely.[/quote]

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